Why you should only purchase a Certified Diamond

A diamond certificate is an expert third party opinion. It states the quality of every aspect of a diamond. Without this certification you are left to trust the jeweler’s estimates. This can cause a potential conflict because the jeweler is the one trying to sell you the diamond.

Buying a certified diamond will usually cost a little more because the diamond had to go through a lab of gemologists that have carefully graded every aspect of the diamond. This is a very minor expense that is worth many times its cost for your protection. There are thousands of labs that grade diamonds. They all offer their certifications in wonderful glossy folders, but you only should consider diamonds graded by three labs. They are the GIA (Gemological Institute of America), EGL (European Gemological Labs), and AGS (American Gem Society).

The most important fact that has to be the first criteria for a laboratory offering an unbiased, legitimate appraisal is that they are not connected in any way with buying or selling diamonds. These three labs all meet that requirement. Here at NYC Wholesale Diamonds we educate first to inform and protect the consumer. If you decide to view our extensive inventory of Certified Diamonds obtained directly from the source in Antwerp, you will find we sell diamonds at wholesale prices from all three of these labs. It would be our pleasure to meet with you to discuss each laboratory’s merits, and differences in their grading practices and procedures. These labs are paid to get the most accurate grades possible but some of the things that they grade have a bit of subjectiveness to them. Meaning the decision will have to be made by a human. A machine can just generate correct weight and dimensions, but not the actual diamond grade.

If the diamond that you are looking at has a certificate from a different lab, I would highly advise that you do some research immediately. This will in most cases lead you to reconsider your decision.

Feel free to call NYC Wholesale Diamonds to set up an in person Diamond Education Appointment with our founder and president Keith J. Saxe by calling (212) 719-2214. If you are searching for an engagement ring we can help you find the Perfect Diamond, Ring and Wedding Bands. Our personal consultation includes an informative lesson on the quality, pricing, and certification of diamonds. Locating the perfect, ideal cut diamond for maximum spectacular brilliance. Designing the perfect setting for the diamond. Advice on immediate protection by the least expensive insurance options. As well as advice on your actual proposal as its romantic significance will last a lifetime.

Keith Saxe is GIA and FIT trained and has been a trusted high end diamond jewelry specialist for 25 years. He is the founder and president of NYC Wholesale Diamonds located at 47 West 47th Street Suite 3A in the New York City Diamond District. His website is www.NYCWholesaleDiamonds.com and authors a blog at www.NYCDiamondBlog.com.

Keith has a full service store located across the street from his private office and a San Diego factory showroom. He offers GIA, EGL and AGS Certified Ideal Cut Diamonds and state of the art fine jewelry designs at low wholesale prices. Keith has been named the N.Y. Diamond District’s Favorite Jeweler by the N.Y. Post’s Savvy Shopper column, been recommended in the New York Times, and in CNN reporter Robyn Spizman’s ‘Perfect Present Guide’ and ‘The GIFTionary’. He had his Diamond Halo Engagement Ring design featured on ‘The Knot’ http://www.theknot.com/weddings/album/a-preppy-upstate-wedding-in-aurora-ny-144122
and his Wedding Band Consumer Advice article published http://www.sandiegocountynews.com/2013/04/24/the-best-time-to-buy-your-wedding-bands/ 

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WANT TO PROPOSE IN NYC ON A HIT T.V. SHOW?

Looking to surprise your girlfriend and PROPOSE in NYC?

The hit TLC show “Say Yes to the Dress” is asking NYC Wholesale Diamonds president Keith Saxe to help them find the guy who wants to pop the question to his special someone in NYC, whether it’s on the Brooklyn Bridge or the top of the Empire State building, they want to be there to catch it on camera.

As a special bonus, Randy Fenoli, will whisk her away immediately after to shop for her dream wedding dress at the famous Kleinfeld Bridal.

If interested email KS@NYCWD.com with a little bit about yourself, your girlfriend and recent photo of the two of you. Good luck!

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Fancy Color Natural Diamonds Sizzling Hot!

NYC Diamond Blog’s goal is to inform the consumer of all Diamond news, innovations, as well as what is hot and exciting! Here are some notes from the highest level trade publication concerning fancy color natural diamonds. Keep in mind NYC Wholesale Diamonds carries a magnificent collection of Natural Red, Blue, Canary Yellow, Pink, and Purple Diamonds.

Unique large and color diamonds are poised to fetch strong prices on the auction circuit again this year. The Sotheby’s Hong Kong jewels sale taking place on April 7 and the Christie’s New York jewels sale on April 16, are well timed to carry on the momentum for these goods from the Basel shows this past week – or more correctly, the momentum from last year.

Exceptional diamonds consistently broke records at various Christie’s and Sotheby’s auctions in 2013 and competition rose between the two houses to source the most exciting goods that they could place under the hammer. Subsequently, demand at both The Diamond Show in Basel and the Baselworld fair signaled continued robust demand for unique diamonds and jewelry, with a still growing appetite for high-end goods that the auction houses can build upon.

At a glance, the upcoming auctions don’t have standout individual stones that are expected to break records, as was offered last year. However, they still have an impressive lineup of lots.

Sotheby’s is anticipating to fetch $7.3 million to $8.3 million for a diamond necklace consisting of 17 brilliant cut, D, IF diamonds with a combined weight of 85.33 carats. The top lot at the Christie’s auction is a pair of ear pendants from round, 22.60-carat and 22.31-carat, D, IF diamonds, that is expected to sell for between $7 million and $10 million. An oval, 40.43-carat, D, potentially flawless diamond was given an upper estimate of $7.8 million, or 192,926 per carat, by Christie’s.

While some argue that the auctions have developed into an unsustainable bubble, dealers note that the high prices achieved at auction reflect what is happening in the market – albeit very specific high-end large and fancy color segments of the trade.

Dealers explain a number of factors fueling the continued uptrend: people want unique things and these goods provide that distinction; the wealthy are still buying in the top end and are consistently in the market as investors or collectors; investors are looking for interesting alternatives to store value since gold has depreciated in the past year and concerns remain about the U.S. dollar; and wealthy consumers in distressed or conflict-ridden countries tend to buy high value assets that are easily transportable.

While these factors are driving demand equally for large diamonds and color diamonds, it is important to distinguish between the two markets.

In particular, there was a lot of color on display in Basel with many in the trade noting that they’re being pushed by jewelry retailers to satisfy growing consumer demand for color. Tiffany & Co. CEO Michael Kowalski noted increasing demand for color diamonds and other gemstones in a recent conference call, with the company’s yellow collection being a standout growth item in 2013.

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Proposals Made Easy

 

Keith J. Saxe, President of NYC Wholesale Diamonds is a romantic. A key ingredient of every NYCWD Diamond Consultation is his advice on the actual proposal, as its romantic significance will last a lifetime. The effort you put in to planning a memorable proposal will be rewarded infinite times throughout your engagement and marriage. You don’t have to be rich or famous to pull off an amazing, one-of-a-kind proposal. Check out these celebrity proposals you can recreate yourself.

Try to top this proposal: singer Seal and supermodel Heidi Klum got engaged…in an igloo. Heidi, who was previously married and divorced, met Seal in early 2004. When Seal decided to propose later that year, they took a private chopper to Whistler, a small ski resort town in the Canadian province of British Columbia, for the holidays,. Just a mere two days before Christmas, Seal proposed to Heidi on top of a glacier while inside a specially made igloo for the event. Inside the igloo was food, champagne and a bed for the occasion. Talk about extravagant!

Do-It-Yourself Tip
Instead of an igloo, try taking your girlfriend to a skating rink. Rockefeller Center has a special “Proposal on the Ice” package that allows you to propose at its famous ice rink, followed by a table at its restaurant and a gift bag. And it’s all for just $200! Another alternative is a ski resort. A proposal at a secluded cabin can be very romantic.

The proposal between actors Tori Spelling and Dean McDermott is practically straight out of a storybook. Dean and Tori met shortly after she separated from husband Charline Shanian. The ink on the divorce papers were barely dry before Dean decided to pop the question during Christmas 2005. After the pair rode in a horse-drawn carriage down a lit path decorated with Christmas lights, the carriage led them to a table surrounded by Christmas trees where Dean finally surprised her with a ring.

Do-It-Yourself Tip
Since everyone decorates their homes with Christmas lights during the holidays, this proposal pretty much sets itself up. Take your girl out for a drive to look at Christmas lights (make sure to go to a nice area, too). If you’re in an area that has horse-drawn carriages (Central Park in NYC is still ideal, but horse carriages might soon be eliminated) , see if you can hitch a ride through a scenic area. Afterward, head to a snowy park with a gazebo. When the moment is right, present the ring.

The public was surprised when they found out singer Mariah Carey and actor Nick Cannon were engaged, but probably not nearly as surprised as Mariah was when her beau proposed not once but twice! The first proposal happened at Mariah’s apartment when Nick surprised the songstress with a diamond ring hidden inside a candy ring pop. The second proposal included a romantic helicopter ride. “They’ve been calling me Cinderella,” Mariah told People about the reaction to her proposals. “Most people would think, ‘OK, please! This doesn’t happen in real life.’”

Do-It-Yourself Tip
Hiding the ring in her food might sound cliched, but it can be pulled off successfully if done right. Instead of hiding the ring in a piece of candy, to avoid any unnecessary damage to the ring, hide the ring elsewhere and present the candy ring as a joke. Then, while she’s not expecting it, present her with the real ring. If you are planning to hide the ring in her food, make sure not to hide to too well. A trip to the emergency room isn’t romantic.

 

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NYC Wholesale Diamonds designs featured in ‘The Knot’

http://www.theknot.com/weddings/album/a-preppy-upstate-wedding-in-aurora-ny-144122

 

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JEWELRY APPRAISAL ADVICE

NYC Wholesale Diamonds President Keith J. Saxe and his NYC Diamond Blog have featured many articles on the importance of having an accurate appraisal, and insuring your engagement ring. This also holds true for all your valuable jewelry. It is not easy to establish a guideline for the value in which you should begin considering insuring fine jewelry. Every individual situation is unique, but a value of $4,000 for each piece can be accurate in most cases. Jim Donovan, a 13-time Emmy Award-winning consumer reporter has written a wonderful article in this week’s Angie’s List Report on this important topic. Enjoy!

Do you have any valuablepieces of jewelry in your home? When was the last time you had them appraised?

In this week’s Angie’s List report, Jim Donovan explains why you might want to get it done soon.

Megan Wright searched all over her house for her missing engagement and wedding rings before finally finding them in her closet.

“My four-year-old daughter had been in there playing dress up — swiped my rings, probably tried them on herself, and she left them in the toe of my shoe,” said Wright.

Fortunately, they were recently appraised, which is important if you want to replicate lost jewelry because appraisals provide detailed descriptions.

“When you want to recreate the piece they’ll be enough detail — the stones, the metal, the weight, the quality of the stones — that you’ll get back exactly what you had. If you have a vague appraisal, then it’s possible you’ll end up with a ring, but it won’t be the same quality or value you had originally,” said jeweler Greg Bires.

You’ll also need an appraisal if you want your jewelry insured.

“Having your jewelry appraised can make sure you have it valued at the correct amount, especially with the fluctuation we’ve seen in gold prices.The pricing and value of your jewelry can and does change over time, so you want to be sure you’ve got it insured for the right amount. If it does end up lost or stolen, you get the right return,” said Angie’s List founder, Angie Hicks.

It’s a good idea to have your items appraised every three to four years. You should expect to pay anywhere from $25 to $65 dollarsper item.

More from Angie:

• An appraiser inspects the item to make sure it’s wearable and that there is no damage. The appraisal marks every detail (measurements, number of stones, type of metal, weight, etc.)

• Your appraisal should also include a photograph and a replacement value – what it would cost to recreate the piece.

• An appraiser can help separate the valuable jewelry from the costume jewelry.

The appraisal process:

• Bring in the item, not a picture, for the appraiser to examine.

• Bring the appraiser copies of any sales receipts or other documentation you have about the items being appraised.

• Tell the appraiser anything you know about the item’s origin or where it was purchased.

• The appraiser will then take a few days to research the item’s history and the marketplace.

• You should receive a written report describing the item itself, the reasons for its valuation, and which type of value was done, for example – replacement value, fair market valueor market value.

How do you know what to appraise?

• Costume jewelry/base metal/plated – not worth appraising

• “Real” metal but not expensive – describe and photograph it for your records, but don’t appraise.

• “Real” stones/metal that you couldn’t easily afford to replace within 12 months – get an appraisal and get it insured. If you’d have to save up to replace it, it’s worth the appraisal and insurance rider.

Angie’s List Tips: Hiring an appraiser

Appraising jewelry for resale or insurance can be a challenge. It’s important to know whether a diamond or stone is real in order to get an accurate estimate of value. Some fakes are difficult to spot. Therefore, it’s wise to have a professional appraise any jewelry of value.

• Start by defining your objective: Do you want an appraisal done for insurance purposes? For estate purposes? To find out your piece’s fair market value?

• Work with a jewelry appraiser who has been trained and certified: Ask if the appraiser is certified by such organizations as the Gemological Institute of America and the American Gem Society. Pick someone who has been in the businessfor a while with a physical address.

• Steer clear of an appraiser who charges a percentage of the appraised value. Hourly fees or flat rates are acceptable. Expect to pay anywhere from $25 to $65 per item. A good appraiser should review all items and establish a rate with the customer before beginning the process. Money saving tip:It can also more cost effective to bring in a number of pieces at once, rather than appraising them individually.

• Appraisals should not take much more than a day, so be wary if the appraiser wants to keep your jewelry much longer than that. Most appraisers recommend making an appointment and will go over your items with you on-site. If you do leave your jewelry, request a receipt that itemizes and describes each piece.

Tips to manage your valuables:

• Preserve your valuables. Have your items cleaned and checked annually.

• Keep the items in their original state. Know that altering a piece may lower its value.

• Consider getting your item re-appraised every three to five years. For items in highly volatile markets, its best to get them re-appraised annually.

• Keep the descriptions of your jewelry in a location separate from the actual jewels. A good place is with your homeowner’s insurance policy. For jewelry handed down through the family, add a description of where the piece came from and keep it with your appraisal information so the next generationcan know its significance.

 

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Aquamarine, the March Birthstone

Aquamarine is a blue to green-blue variety of precious beryl. The beryl group of minerals is most famous for chromium-rich, green emerald, which happens to be one of the ‘Precious Four’ gems of the world (diamond, sapphire and ruby are the remaining three). Aquamarine is the official birthstone for those born in March. Aquamarine is exceptionally hard and has an outstanding glass-like luster. It is most famous for its breathtaking sea-blue colors which can range from light blue to dark blue. The name ‘Aquamarine’ was derived from an old Latin expression which meant ‘seawater’.

NYC Wholesale Diamonds offers a magnificent collection of Aquamarine and Diamond Rings, Tennis Bracelets, Necklaces, and Earrings. We caution you to always request a certified appraisal when purchasing Aquamarine Jewelry. The more common Blue Topaz can be quite similar in appearance and is not a rare gemstone.

Aquamarine and emerald belong to the same family, but they are surprisingly different. Aquamarine and emerald are both beryllium aluminum silicates. While emerald is colored by trace amounts of chromium (and vanadium), Aquamarine color is the result of iron impurities within colorless beryl crystal. Aquamarine and emerald have essentially the same specific gravity and refractive index, but emerald tends to be hazy and full of inclusions, while Aquamarine has excellent transparency and clarity. Aquamarine, and other types of beryl, are quite durable and hard, ranging from 7.5 to 8 on Mohs scale of mineral hardness. A dark and deeply-saturated blue is the most desirable and valuable Aquamarine color

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Oscars 2014 Jewelry

Many millions of dollars of jewelry hit the red carpet at the 2014 Oscars in Hollywood last night…and that was just on Jennifer Lawrence.

NYC Wholesale Diamonds took notice of the following magnificent designs that were priceless:

Charlize Theron 31-carat diamond cluster Harry Winston necklace popped against her black Christian Dior haute couture gown.

As if her Prada gown wasn’t stunning enough, Lupita Nyong’o showed off great taste in jewelry as well, selecting a beguiling gold and diamond headband and a gold and rose-cut diamond spiked crescent earrings which gave a little edge to the outfit. She also wore a 19th century gold and diamond snake bracelet and several vintage rings, all from Fred Leighton.

Cate Blanchett’s gown was embellished enough, but she dared to wear giant opal drops set in white gold from Chopard — gorgeous. Naomi Watts paired her winter-white Calvin Klein gown with a spiderweb-like diamond Bulgari necklace. Jennifer Lawrence‘s Neil Lane necklace weighed in at 100 carats and cost $2 million — and let’s not forget her 10-card diamond studs and diamond-and-platinum ring. And Sandra Bullock‘s platinum and diamond $1.8 million cluster earrings from Lorraine Schwartz.

 

 

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New jewelry introduced with hidden safety technology

Fine Diamond Jewelry with these features might just be around the corner. The future is now. Wearable tech and elegant jewelry design might sound like two incongruous concepts, but a new accessories collection targeted at improving personal safety could change that.

Cuff has designed a jewelry range consisting of contemporary bracelets, necklaces and key chains which hide the CuffLinc, a small wireless chip which links to a smartphone app via Bluetooth.

Users who have the app invite friends or family to join their ‘Cuff circle’. Pressing on the jewelry will send out an alert and exact location to those in the wearer’s contact circle. Those wearing the cuff will feel it vibrate, and location information will be sent to each user’s phone.

Although safety is the primary focus of the design, Cuff can also be used to simply let someone know you are trying to contact them by sending a weaker signal.

Cuff was founded by Deepa Sood, former VP of Product Development at luxury retailer Restoration Hardware. She credited her role as a mother with propelling her to launch the brand.

“The new Cuff collection wearables are more chic than geek, wrapping smart technology into elegant, fashionable pieces that we all want to wear,” said Sood. “We don’t believe that we should be forced to choose between smarts and beauty when it comes to wearable accessories.”

Designs include chunky cuffs made from smooth or textured leather, metal or silicone. Necklaces feature leaf motifs or pearl detailsand the entire collection is based on a strikin color palette of black, silver and gold tones.

The chip can be switched between accessories and should last for one year without needing to be charged, the brand says.

The technology is compatible with iOS technology, although the brand hasn’t ruled out introducing an Android app in the future.

The range is available to pre-order from Cuff with prices ranging from $50 to $150.

 

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DIAMONDS ARE FOREVER, ARE WEDDINGS?

A Diamond Engagement Ring is the ultimate romantic gift of a lifetime. That said, Diamonds have proven to consistently be one of the best investments of all time, if not the very best! Diamonds become family heirlooms for generations.  They are historically the most valuable, and stable form of currency. Now can we say the same about weddings? We would never lessen the importance and significance of a wedding here at NYCWD. In my 26 years sharing the joy of couples as they become engaged, many have sought out alternative ideas to a huge wedding. The following is a fascinating article written by Kate Storey appearing in today’s New York Post. Yes, one and the same N.Y. Post that named NYC Wholesale Diamond’s President Keith J. Saxe ‘The New York Diamond District’s Favorite Jeweler’ in their Savvy Shopper Column.

Last spring, a few dozen guests stopped by a going-away party in Greenpoint for Khuong Phan and Shannon Belisario. Wearing casual summer dresses and slouchy jeans, the friends gathered at Paulie Gee’s pizza joint.

There was nothing unusual about the party, except the departing couple was a bit more dressed up than usual — Belisario in a cute purple and red frock, Phan in a sharp sports coat. And surprisingly, their family members had flown in from Florida for the lunch.

After some slices, Phan, then 32, and Belisario, then 30, invited the group of 55 to a nearby photo studio for drinks. A few hours later, Phan and Belisario climbed on top of a coffee table to make a toast.

“Our Brooklyn friends have become like a second family to us,” Phan began as iPhones flashed. “And keep out your cellphone cameras! Because we’re getting married — right now!”

The room erupted in cheers and tears as the couple dashed off to change into their wedding finery.

Top-secret weddings are usually associated with celebrities hoping to escape the glare of paparazzi — think Sarah Jessica Parker and Matthew Broderick; Blake Lively and Ryan Reynolds; Leighton Meester and Adam Brody, who reportedly tied the knot last week in a covert ceremony in Northern California. But recently such undercover weddings have become a welcome alternative for everyday couples looking to avoid the fuss and frills of the over-the-top, “Bridezilla” approach to matrimony.

“Ambush weddings are part of a bigger trend of couples doing away with the traditional way of doing weddings,” says Carmen Feliciano, CEO of pennyandmary.com, a New York-based wedding vendor site.

“It’s driven by a few things: cost, need for personalization and time. People just don’t want to spend a year and a half having wedding planning in the back of their minds.”

And who can blame them? According to theknot.com, the average New York wedding now costs upwards of $70,000, and brides typically spend 14 months planning it.

Simply turning a party into a surprise wedding eliminates the hassle of save-the-dates, fancy invites, rehearsal dinners, bridal showers and decoration details. Plus the planning period is generally reduced to a month or two.

For both celebrities and regular folks, the key to pulling off a surprise wedding is coming up with a strong excuse to lure guests to the bash. LeAnn Rimes and Eddie Cibrian told pals they were hosting an engagement party at a private home, in 2011, but when guests showed up, the couple revealed it was actually their wedding. In 2009, Gisele Bündchen and Tom Brady used their son’s christening at St. Monica Catholic Church in California as an excuse to get their group gathered.

Belisario and Phan, who had been engaged for five years, initially planned to go the traditional route with their nuptials. But they kept running into roadblocks.

“We had pseudo-planned our wedding twice,” says Belisario. “We looked around everywhere — The Green Building, The Foundry, all over the place. They’re so expensive!”

So the wedding was pushed off. But when Phan scored a job in Los Angeles, the couple knew they couldn’t leave their beloved Brooklyn — where they’d spent the majority of their relationship — without getting married.

So they dove into action, turning their going-away party into a surprise ceremony. They tracked down a priest who agreed to officiate with only a week’s notice, and tipped off their families in Florida to ensure they’d make the trip north.

Even though some female guests unwittingly wore white, some male guests arrived under-dressed in jeans and sandals, and almost everyone showed up empty-handed — no wedding invites means no registry — the response was overwhelmingly positive.

“I thought it was really romantic and a great way to take the pressure off of all of the bulls - - t that comes with a wedding — save-the-dates and invites and dress code and all of the rigamarole that’s peripheral to the celebration itself,” says Jamie Feldmar, 26, who has been friends wit h the couple for years. “I thought it was kind of awesome.”

Park Slope residents Amy and Dave Frey were so against the nuptial song and dance, they planned to skip it altogether — until a health scare changed their minds.

After dating for about four years and deciding marriage wasn’t for them, the pair decided to start a family in the fall of 2012. But Amy had a dangerous ectopic pregnancy that required emergency surgery.

“In the hospital, right before the surgery, we looked at each other and were like, maybe we need to rethink this whole marriage thing,” Amy says.

“And my husband looked at me and said, ‘Oh, we’re going to get married!’”

But they knew they didn’t want their “I do’s” to be the normal to-do.

“We’d been to nine or 10 weddings over the previous two years, and there’s so much stress,” Amy says. “We didn’t want to be stressed over money and linens and tables and all that stuff.”

In a matter of weeks, Amy, 31, had invited their friends to a surprise birthday party for Dave, 39, at MyMoon restaurant in Williamsburg. But unbeknownst to their guests, the couple secretly exchanged vows in front of a few close family members at the nearby Wythe Hotel moments before the “birthday party” began. So it was a pleasant surprise when the couple walked through the door with rings on their fingers.

“Amy had the biggest grin on her face, and I just knew,” remembers guest Anna Carnick.

“I burst out crying, and she came up and said, ‘We got married!’ ”

Meanwhile, Alec and Gaby Brownstein spent months telling everyone they were planning to elope somewhere exotic and then have a small party to celebrate.

“Our parents were not thrilled,” Alec, 33, says. “They wanted us to do a wedding.”

And when the couple realized their “low-key” soiree was becoming as big as a wedding, they decided to nix the elopement and stage a surprise ceremony at the party.

The only other person who knew of their nuptial plot was wedding planner Tracy Taylor Ward, who set up a photo shoot of the couple around the city, with beach locales acting as stand-ins for exotic elopement spots. On the day of the party, Alec and Gaby played the slideshow for their guests, listing places they’d intended to wed. And then, the big reveal: “But we knew we wanted to get married in front of our family and friends — so we’re getting married today!”

“They were crying and so moved,” 29-year-old Gaby says. “I was so surprised that so many people cared so much.”

But relationship therapist Rachel Sussman recommends treading carefully if you go the surprise route.

“Parents could be very hurt if they were lumped into the same surprise that their kids’ friends and acquaintances and colleagues are,” she says.

Sussman instead encourages couples to bring their closest friends and relatives into the planning process.

And yes, that includes the bride.

Wedding planner Sandy Malone handled the granddaddy of secret ceremonies last year when a would-be groom hired her to surprise his future bride.

The client flew his girlfriend to Vieques, Puerto Rico, where he promptly proposed. The very next day, their friends and family arrived for the ceremony — unbeknownst to the soon-to-be Mrs.

That’s when things got awkward.

At the reception, family and friends began whispering that they thought the bride had been pressured into marriage. They didn’t approve of the groom and, although they knew they were flying to the couple’s wedding, they didn’t think they’d had a chance to voice their concerns.

“I was physically ill,” says Malone. “It was horrible. I wanted to take the bride aside and say, ‘Did I do something horrible? Your paperwork isn’t filed yet. We can tell everyone it’s a bad dream!’ But if nobody in her family has the guts to tell her that, who am I to do it?”

Malone says there is a difference between good and bad surprise weddings.

“A bad surprise is not telling the bride she’s about to get married.”

 


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